For all women yearning to experience a sexy, boudoir photo shoot, but are hesitant to do so, due to a of lack flexibility, let me put your mind at ease. You don’t have to be Simone Biles, Aly Raisman or Nadia Comaneci to experience an awesomely, empowering boudoir shoot!

I’ve heard women—particularly older and not-so-limber women, say they have reservations about doing a boudoir photo shoot because they can’t master the poses they see other women do. I’ve listened as they jokingly admitted they could never bend and move their bodies to strike a sexy, alluring pose.

I have one thing to say about that.

You don’t have to do calisthenics or struggle to maintain challenging poses to have a successful boudoir experience. Any boudoir photographer worth their salt will see that you don’t have to either.

A friend of mine is a fitness and boxing coach. For each of his prospective clients, he assesses their fitness and learns their strengths, limitations and capabilities before he agrees to train them. Once he knows what they can do, he customizes the training session to best suit their needs. After all, he would not allow a person with bad knees to do squats.


The same holds true or should for a boudoir photographer. As with fitness training, boudoir sessions shouldn’t be one size fits all. Customized sessions are a necessity. Customization not only includes your wardrobe (although it’s the main component), but your overall well-being. When I do pre-consults with a client, I make it my business to know as much as possible about them—their taste, their physical capabilities and their willingness to come out of their comfort zone. If I didn’t, I wouldn’t be doing my job as a photographer and “directional” coach.

Some of my favorites poses are those that are simple, yet elegant. With coaching and a few simple poses —along with attitude, an aloof gaze or sexy smile—you can have a boudoir photo session to be proud of and without contorting your limbs into a pretzel.